When Someone You Love Is Vanilla
with Lorelei and Mistress Freya
At the Society of Janus
February 25, 2003
Doors open at 7 pm
Cost: $5, members of Janus & Reciprocal, $15, guests
Sharing your deepest, kinkiest desires with your beloved is a self-revelation that creates true intimacy. No wonder so many people are scared to do it! Take the terror out of talking about BDSM. Lorelei and Freya will help you understand the most effective ways to bring up the subject.
Learn the secrets of success in sharing these desires!
- How vanilla is your partner at heart? Watch for these signs of a potential pervert.
- Do I have to do this alone? Soften up your partner with these kinky hints.
- When should I mention this? Discover the times when you’re most likely to succeed.
- What should I say? Learn the best (and worst) approaches when you’re bringing up the subject.
- What of s/he hates the thought? Turn No into Maybe and Maybe into Yes.
Plus get advice on resources, religious objections, the emotional and psychological roots of aversion to kink, and much more.
Lorelei has spent almost her entire adult life as a practicing SadoDomme. She shares her two decades of experience in online forums, private counseling, and her books, which include The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance (first published in 1994) and A Charm School for Sissy Maids (1995), both available from Greenery Press. She is also the author of the booklet Getting Her Interested.
Lorelei is involved in a polyamorous marriage with three other people. They live in Silicon Valley with three cats, thousands of books, and a toybag the size of a truck.
Mistress Freya, a professional Dominant in San Francisco, long considered herself vanilla before discovering that there was a name for her particular predilections. In her practice as a ProDomme, she often counsels clients on the issue of communicating with a vanilla partner and about “coming out” in general to friends and family. Before joining the BDSM community, she was working on her Ph.D. in history, which focused on dictatorships and torture.