Perverts’ Dictionary

Collective Nouns

A friend asked what would be the collective noun for a group of gay men. I responded:

I think it depends on various factors:

a fist of otherwise unspecified gay men a star of twinks a pelt of bears a cruise or a hankie of gay bars a tosca of opera queens a roundup or a lasso of gay cowboys

Same with lesbians:

a rouge of femmes a bench (shortened from workbench) of butches a daddy or a diesel of dykes a scoop of earth mothers a lick or a fist of lesbians

Also:

a quirk or quark of queers a cadre of LGBTQ activists a buffet of bisexuals (waffle is also used, but may be considered disparaging) a kate of genderqueers

For any of us, gay, lesbian, bi, trans, queer:

a family of lovers

Goddamn it. A *family*. Is that so complicated?

C’est Moi!

Hello My orientation is bisexual, dominant, feminist, grrl, leather, ma’am, masochist, mistress, polyamorous, queer, sadist, soft butch, switch, woman What’s yours?

Sexual Sovereignty

Inspiring words from the strong, beautiful, and smart Hanne Blank:

Sexual sovereignty: The only crown fit to be worn by the rebel, the outcast, the heretic, the renegade, the in-betweener, the I-don’t-know-and-you-don’t-either, the one who takes their half out of the middle. I also offer you the concept of sovereign identity as a shield, as a form of armor and empowerment.

Read the essay. Damn, that woman can write. And think.

I Think I’ve Found My New Sig Line

“What looks and feels like love to me would, I promise you, leave you sexually, emotionally, and spiritually traumatized.” –Dan Savage