Gender
Leslie Feinberg and the Problem of Family
Author Lorelei
Reposted from Questioning Transphobia
Hermaphroditus Intersex
Author Lorelei
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Originally uploaded by enfemmetv
I don’t know where this statue is, or if it’s just great Photoshopping. Whichever, I thank enfemmetv for allowing people to share the photo.
Oakland Cross-Dressers Will Soon Be Safer
Author Lorelei
San Francisco preceded Oakland with a similar law in 1866. By 1930, most cities in California had dress code laws. From the mid-19th century, the state enacted all kinds of legislation against LGBT behavior; convictions led to forced sterilization, castration, indefinite hospitalization and life imprisonment. The law lumped child molesters and homosexuals together as “perverts.” Women suffragists wore pants in protest. German theorist Karoly Maria Kertbeny disputed the criminalization of “homosexuality” (a term he coined). Racist medical texts linked the idea of “degenerate” races with “degenerate” sexualities. [emphasis added]Hmm, does any of this rhetoric sound familiar? Especially conflating consensual same-sex relationships with child rape. So repealing this law is another way the good city of Oakland can affirm its support of LGBTQ and genderqueer people.
Y2Gay
Author Lorelei
Y2Gay: the database engineering perspective on same-sex and polyamorous marriage.
Yes, it’s funny. But it’s also a fascinating practical issue, and the solutions presented seem eminently doable to me.The Charm School Ebook
Author Lorelei
After years out of print, The Charm School for Sissy Maids is available again–this time as an ebook!
Perfect Service in Thirty Days!
This erotic classic of discipline and instruction includes feminization, service, and discipline. In a unique daily-submission format, it offers commands, exercises, and hints for successful service to even the most demanding of Mistresses. Learn the proper way to curtsy, to serve tea, to perform all the services of a Lady’s maid, to care for your Lady’s lingerie, and to attend to her most personal needs and desires.
Any submissive male willing to follow this program can be transformed into a dedicated panty slave and a winsome, fetching sissy maid. You’ll be amazed at the change in yourself! Best of all, you will learn how to please–and attract–the kind of Mistress who yearns to put up her feet and relax while you bustle about in apron and sissy panties. Of course, once she has inspected your work, you may expect some discipline–or reward. A panty cocktail? Or something even more deliciously embarrassing?
The Charm School for Sissy Maids is also a useful guide for the Mistress training her submissive. Full of fresh ideas for devilish discipline and delightful services, this guide will provide just the structured approach your sissy submissive longs for–and it may give you new ideas for keeping him firmly under your well-manicured thumb! Includes a table of services, disciplinary suggestions, inspection forms, and other ideas for heightening your pleasure–and your sissy maid’s obedience.
I need (A) some food — which I haven’t had all day, now I think about it, and (B) some sleep. Which I haven’t had in a while.
It’s nice to know I can still get to this place of total focus. And it’s amazingly wonderful to have The Charm School available again.
Teach Your Children Well
Author Lorelei
Here’s a letter from bearsir, an award-winning performance artist, writer, and activist who travels around the country teaching about GLBTQ issues. (That’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer.) I respect Bear’s work very highly, and this work is essential education for both straight and GLBTQ youth. It can help promote healing and self-acceptance and even prevent violence against those of us who are not exactly Ozzie and Harriet.
Bear says:
Often, the colleges and universities that don’t allocate money for GLBTQ programming are those that need it the most. When queer and trans education or programs aren’t a priority of the institution, it is a good indicator of a less-than-safe environment for queer and trans students. I had to decline seventeen requests last year from schools which had /no/ money to bring me in. I am happy to donate my time and do stuff for free, but I couldn’t afford to travel at my own expense.
Here’s where you come in.
I know you don’t have wads of cash laying around, just waiting for something to do with it. But I am hoping that many of you have a little bit – in this case? $5 a month. That’s all. My sponsoring non-profit** will let you set up, online, a donation which will automatically charge you five bucks, once a month, without you even having to think about it.
That money will then be available for me to travel to some of those underfunded schools and do queer and trans education on the ground, which I think will benefit *all* of us in the long run, even if it happens in Iowa, or North Dakota. I’m asking you to join me in an initiative to make this world a safer place for all of us, whatever our gender or sexual orientation. To send me places where I can help queer and trans youth feel less alone, and less afraid. To help make less hate, and more understanding.
Want to? Here’s how:
Step 1: Go to my profile page.
Step 2: Click on the button that says “Support This Artist’s Work”
Step 3: Click on the yellow “Donate Now!” button.
Step 4: Fill in the form. They key parts are: - type in $5 (or more, if you like) for Donation Amount, - click the button for monthly, - and you *MUST* earmark it for me, by typing ‘Bear’ in the earmark box, or the money goes to the general fund.
And you’re done. No muss, no fuss, no nasty aftertaste, just piping-hot queer and tranny educational goodness at a low, low price!
Got questions? Email me, and ask.
Want to forward this to people you think will help out? Go nuts.
Seriously? Thanks. If you’re reading this, it means you’re part of, or an ally to, my community. Even if you don’t give a nickel in financial contribution, I’m really glad you exist.
Best regards- Bear
* I tour around the country, performing (this) and lecturing about queer and trans issues. I talk to students, staff, and faculty all over the country – visiting classes, holding workshops, and giving performances – to help them understand queer and trans folks a little better, and make their schools safer for us. I really do believe that knowledge is the antidote to hate, and that has largely proved correct – the students at the schools I have visited overwhelmingly reported feeling safer, and better understood, after I went.
**I have just been granted artist support by the Fund For Women Artists, a national organization which sponsors artists whose work they feel has particular merit and will make a substantive contribution toward feminist causes, including anti-homophobia and anti-transphobia work.
Bi and Poly
Author Lorelei
Can someone bi and poly live monogamously? A friend of mine is looking for experiences and viewpoints on the issue now.
I’ve always been bisexual; my first-grade crushes were a girl called Robin and a boy called Stephen. Perhaps because my model of loving relationships wasn’t based on a tight mother-infant bond, but on the looser but no less powerful association of sisters, I was polyamorous before the term was coined.
Nevertheless, I was monogamously involved with my husband from 1984 (when we started dating) until 1999, when we became polyamorous by agreement. (We had been discussing the issue for the whole 15 years). When we met, I was in my mid-20s, and I had been romantically and sexually involved with both men and women. For years.
It is possible for someone innately bi and innately poly to live a monogamous life, but for me the monogamy had certain effects. For one thing, my imagination became completely lesbian. Lesbian sexual dreams, for example. I kept writing lesbian characters into my fiction; I even tried to sneak a lesbian schoolgirl crush into a Regency romance. (It was excised.) I found myself aching for women’s voices, women’s touch. I did of course still get crushes – mostly with women – even though I refused to do anything about them. And I had a few very close friendships with women that did not cross the line.
These days, when I’m sexually active only with a woman, I’m discovering that the same things are occurring in the other direction. I’m having erotic dreams about men. I’ve been craving involvement with a man. So far haven’t had more than an occasional play date, which is not the same thing as having full-out sex with someone. (I’ve stayed fully dressed on these play dates.) Part of me just wants a guy to hold for a long time, part of me wants to fuck a man, part of me wants a guysub.
I’m not sure I am ready for that – I’m still working out the scars of my marriage. But someday I hope I can find a lovely guy, whether for a secondary relationship or to bring into the family as a primary.