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The Horror, The Horror
Author Lorelei
The whole ad, for when it goes away and stops searing my brain with its vision of despair:
Seeking Erotic Novel Writter (Long Island) Date: 2009-10-12, 10:37AM EDT Reply to: gigs-u3twa-1417627906@craigslist.org
Do you like Care-Bears and Unicorns? Seeking erotic novel writer to write a novel where carebears have loving sexual relations with unicorns. This isn’t a joke, I’m going to use this novel to teach her about sex. Topics include, safety, love, and threesomes.
* Location: Long Island * it’s NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests * Compensation: 300.00 Per Book
Don’t blame me, blame Mollena. She tweeted it. And I had to look.
Hi, I’m Bi
Author Lorelei
It’s National Coming Out Day. My name is Lorelei, and I’m bisexual. (Also a polyamorous queer sadistic Domme and occasional switch, but we’ll talk about all that later.)
This sexual identity is deep-rooted in me. There never was a time when I was attracted only to one gender. Even in times when I have been romantically or sexually involved with only one, the other desire was always there, craving attention. Usually it came out in dreams.
“But you have to choose!” some people insist. “You can’t sit on the fence.”
I have chosen, and I’m not sitting on any fences, thanks. I’m staking out my own ground, where I can love bears, butches, sissies, and femmes of all genders.
Notice I don’t say “regardless of gender.” I do a lot of gender play, and I am especially attracted to people at the extremes of the gender spectrum. Lovely femmy guys and burly bearded men, butch dykes and curvaceous femmey women. My beautiful partner and femsub can do butch or high femme. My male lover is a classic bear, tall, bearded, muscular, full-bellied—and has a thick head of waist-length hair. And despite my powerful identification as a woman, I’m also genderqueer in a peculiarly high-handed way.
One reason that “bisexual” is such a problematic term is that it suggests that there are two genders. In my experience, gender is considerably more fluid and complex than a simple binary. But that’s just the start of the bisexual dilemma. Or trilemma. Or polylemma.
Being bisexual can be an uncomfortable position. (It’s the middle of the road where most accidents happen.) I have a lot more sympathy for the lesbian and gay folks who get angry when we hide behind het privilege than for the straight ones who think we’re sneaky and unsettling.
Actually, almost everybody thinks that bisexuals are treacherous, greedy, self-indulgent, incapable of commitment, and lying to themselves about their real orientation. Did I miss any of the usual stereotypes? Oh yes—bisexuals are narcissists in love only with their own sexuality, willing to let anybody do them, as long as somebody does.
And we all have heard that bisexual women save their real loyalty for men. That their desire for women is mostly a desire to please and titillate a men who gets hot watching them make love before diving in with his manly meathood to satisfy them both. Any shadow of that attitude infuriates me, and God knows how often it’s commercially exploited. Too often.
My bisexuality is very far from being an experiment, a pose to turn men on, or an escape from my true lesbian nature. It’s at the core of my being, and I’ve had passionate, lasting, intense erotic and romantic relationships with both men and women. I was married to a sissy man for 17 years. I’ve been involved with my femsub for more than 11 years, with my male lover for 6. I cannot imagine giving either one of those relationships up, turning away from love, friendship, and endless desire. Not being able to marry either one of them is one of the frustrations of my life. Marrying her is illegal. Marrying him would misrepresent my relationship with her and his with his longterm partner. (He’s been with her for more than 25 years. She is one of my closest friends.)
It’s so easy for society to dismiss the same-sex relationship as a tasty snack compared to the solid, nutritious meal of heterosexual commitment. And maybe for some people that’s true. Not for me.
Go right down to the heart of me, and you’ll find love, desire, friendship for both men and women. I’m Lorelei, and I am bisexual.
BiNetUSA, a great US site for information and support on bisexuality.
Jay Wiseman’s Breath Play Seminar
Author Lorelei
Brooks Applications Closing Sale
Author Lorelei
I saw this on FetLife and wanted to share. Looks like there are some great bargains out there on top-quality stuff.
C’est Moi!
Author Lorelei
My First Night at Power Exchange
Author Lorelei
Raelyn Gallina stricken with aggressive breast cancer
Author Lorelei
EVERYONE PLEASE FORWARD THIS, POST THIS, AND SEND TO RELEVANT PRESS:
We are a group of devoted friends of Raelyn Gallina and wish to inform you of what is happening in her life right now. As Raelyn is a beloved, very well known member of the piercing/SM/art/spiritual and other communities, we know that many folks all over the country will want to know this important news. Upon the day Raelyn returned home from her Mother’s funeral in September, she was diagnosed with the rarest, deadliest form of breast cancer. She had to start chemotherapy immediately. On December 8th, she had a double mastectomy. After that, she will have more hemotherapy and start radiation treatments five days a week for many months. Raelyn is just 49 years old, and has always been extremely healthy, energetic and powerful, so this comes as a huge shock.
The good news is that Raelyn has a chance of getting through all this, as the cancer seems to have been caught in time. Her devoted partner of ten years, Babs is by her side every step of the way and of enormous help and comfort. (Babs’ beloved brother died just before Thanksgiving.) This is all terrifying and exhausting, but the gals are still managing to keep their spirits up most of the time.
Raelyn has been a pioneer of the body modification movement since 1982; the first to make 18k gold body jewelry, inventor of the fishtail labrette, and an innovator of scarification. She touched and adorned many as she brought her magic all around the country over the years. Her focus was always on the spiritual, and on generously sharing the wealth of her knowledge with others and showing us how to do body modifications safely, pleasurably, and meaningfully in numerous demos, workshops, and presentations. Being a Santeria priestess, over the years Raelyn has ministered to many of us with problems, and given us so much of her love, which has trickled down throughout our communities. Her strong faith and spirituality have been an enormous source of strength and support.
We would like to ask you for your prayers and good wishes for Raelyn right now. Visualize her having the strength to withstand and survive her cancer treatments. See her in good health, send her love, cards and letters of support.
Financially things are very rough for Raelyn and Babs right now. Raelyn has been too sick to work much. She didn’t have health insurance or savings due to the bad economy, being a freelancer, and living in the expensive bay area. Babs cleans houses for a living, and has had to cancel a lot of work to nurse and help Raelyn. They won’t be able to make much money for at least the next seven or eight months. They need our financial help so they don’t lose their home, to cover living expenses and health care needs. We urge you to send financial gifts. Organize benefits in your town. Send whatever you can. Show Raelyn we love her, and want to keep her around! Show them we are the great community and friends we say we are!
You can send a donation through Pay Pal. https:www.paypal.com raelynlove@sbcglobal.net Or send directly to: Raelyn Gallina (and Babs) P.O.BOX 20034 Oakland, CA 94620. You can check on Raelyn’s progress at a web site that Babs set up at: http://www.geocities.com/raelynlove@sbcglobal.net/mypage.html Thank you, Annie Sprinkle, SF Cathy Opie, LA Kate Bornstein and Barbara Carrellas, NY Idexa and Black and Blue Tattoo, SF Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, SF Kim Airs and Grand Opening, Boston & LA John Weis, NY Sharrin Spector & Pierce/Ink, SJ, CA Lolita, NY Fakir Musafar and Cleo DuBois, SF Midori, SF Peg Preble, Boston Ketti Neil, Phil. Lamar Van Dyke, Seattle Wickie Stamps, SF Glenda Rider & Sarah Humble & Playhouse Studios, Balt.