When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch.
a Bette Davis quote :)
When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch.
a Bette Davis quote :)
Anger is not as acceptable for..wom[e]n…To be angry means you are temporarily alone; you are not in relationship to the person you are angry with. It means being willing to risk that others will reject you, abandon, dislike, even hate you. To many this would represent psychological death. It threatens the established pattern and can mean change. But anger provides energy for change. Women…have to redefine anger and use it for our own development. We have to stop idealizing self-sacrifice, and at the same time we must redefine and reclaim our justified anger.
Feminist have argued that anger and conflict are necessary for liberation and self-enhancement, for releasing our creative abilities, for serving our self, and for full development (Miller, 1976). Anger is a rational response to the injustice, exploitation, and denigration surrounding the dedicated nurturance and self-sacrifice of nursing. Self-sacrifice is exactly that: sacrifice or denial of the self, of one’s identity, needs, desires in order to serve others.
Finn, Geraldine. Voices of Women, Voices of Feminism: Limited Edition. Fernwood Publishing; Halifax. 1993. (pg. 54)
Emotional neglect lays the groundwork for the emotional numbing that helps boys feel better about being cut off. Eruptions of rage in boys are most often deemed normal, explained by the age-old justification for adolescent patriarchal misbehavior, “Boys will be boys.” Patriarchy both creates the rage in boys and then contains it for later use, making it a resource to exploit later on as boys become men. As a national product, this rage can be garnered to further imperialism, hatred and oppression of women and men globally. This rage is needed if boys are to become men willing to travel around the world to fight wars without ever demanding that other ways of solving conflict can be found.
bell hooks (via seaofbadstories).
Where do you think the cops of Ferguson got their deep, deep rage? And now they’re taking it out on Black people.
“But you can’t argue that the world isn’t in an unhealthy moral state.”
“Wouldn’t think of it dearest. People lie, cheat, rape, swindle, kill, maim, torture and destroy. Bad thing. People also pop into bed together and cosy up. Good thing. If we think fucking is a sign of moral decay then we’re a little bit stupid-stupid, aren’t we?”
— Stephen Fry (The Hippopotamus)
Mary Tyler Moore, Dominatrix. Dick Van Dyke, submissive. Annie Leibowitz for Vanity Fair, 1995. (via Pin by John MacDonald on Leibovitz | Pinterest)