A friend asked what would be the collective noun for a group of gay men. I responded:

I think it depends on various factors:

a fist of otherwise unspecified gay men
a star of twinks
a pelt of bears
a cruise or a hankie of gay bars
a tosca of opera queens
a roundup or a lasso of gay cowboys

Same with lesbians:

a rouge of femmes
a bench (shortened from workbench) of butches
a daddy or a diesel of dykes
a scoop of earth mothers
a lick or a fist of lesbians

Also:

a quirk or quark of queers
a cadre of LGBTQ activists
a buffet of bisexuals (waffle is also used, but may be considered disparaging)
a kate of genderqueers

For any of us, gay, lesbian, bi, trans, queer:

a family of lovers

Goddamn it. A *family*. Is that so complicated?